For those who have sweat through your child having a full on meltdown in the middle of Target. For those who have felt judged by others or responsible for your child’s behavior. For those who have felt shame as a parent, this podcast episode is for you. 

In this episode of Yoga|Birth|Babies, I speak with licensed psychotherapist, parent coach, speaker, and bestselling author, Mercedes Samudio. Mercedes started the #EndParentShaming movement as well as coined the term Shame-Proof Parenting – using both to bring awareness to ending parent shame. Mercedes shares how shame has infiltrated parenthood and offers strategies that encourage healthy parent- child relationship building. She also talks about what happens if we only focus on resolving the surface behaviors but don’t look deeper at the child’s emotional or mental state.

In this episode you will learn:

• Learn about Mercedes and what inspired her to write Shame Proof Parenting.

• Some of the impactful stories that influenced Mercedes’s approach in Shame Proof Parenting.

• Defining shame. 

• How shame infiltrated parenthood .

• The three aspects of shame explained.

• How to not feel responsible for your child’s behavior. 

• How we as parents re-create shame in our children.

• The affects of labeling – both good and bad labeling.

• The “Shame Iceberg”

• Ways parents can learn to trust their own intuition and build a relationship recognizing their intuition.

• The importance of distinguishing between needs, wants, desires and expectations in the shame proof parenting paradigm. 

• What happens if we only focuses on resolving the surface behaviors but don’t look deeper at the child’s emotional or mental state.

• Tools parents can start to think about creating their own “parenting manual”. 

• Strategies that encourage healthy parent- child relationship building.

• One final tip/piece of advice Mercedes offers new and expectant parents.

• Where you can find Mercede’s work! 

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About Mercedes Samudio, LCSW:

Mercedes Samudio, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, parent coach, speaker, and bestselling author who helps families develop healthy parent-child relationships. Mercedes is an adjunct professor where she teaches psychology, diagnosis of mental illness, and multicultural counseling. She is an accomplished speaker who trains on topics such as her Parental Identity Development Model ™, multicultural counseling, and developing a clinical identity. Mercedes started the #EndParentShaming movement as well as coined the term Shame-Proof Parenting – using both to bring awareness to ending parent shame. You can read more about her parenting expertise at http://shameproofparenting.com.

Additional Resources: 

• EMDR for Parents: http://bit.ly/EMDR4Parents

• Shame-Proof Parenting Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071D4YXMT

• Big Beings, Little Body: The New Parenting Paradigm With Carrie Contey PhD Yoga | Birth | Babies episode: (https://Prenatalyogacenter.Com/Blog/Big-Person-Little-Body-The-New-Parenting-Paradigm-With-Carrie-County-Phd/)

Connect with Mercedes:

• Website: http://shameproofparenting.com
• Instagram: @mrs.samudio

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