Comments on: Fear Not! http://prenatalyogacenter.com/blog/fear-not/ A New York City mom sharing her knowledge as a childbirth educator, labor support doula, and her own journey through motherhood Thu, 17 May 2012 03:32:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Deb http://prenatalyogacenter.com/blog/fear-not/#comment-2533 Deb Thu, 20 May 2010 16:38:14 +0000 http://prenatalyogacenter.com/blog/?p=1090#comment-2533 Hi Nathalie Thank you so much for sharing your story and commenting on the blog "Fear Not'. I added the line about the midwife's concern over those not nervous for two reasons. The first was indeed to tell mothers it is ok to be nervous. The second reason was to encourage mothers to take a closer look at what was coming up and see if there was any unexplored feelings. This could help create a dialogue between the expectant mother and her support person/people about the mother's concerns and allow her support team to really be available to anticipate and meet her needs. From personal experience, I can not remember a woman not expressing some sort of apprehension about how labor will unfold. Many first time moms are often concerned with what labor will look and feel like and how they will handle the contractions. Second time moms often are concerned about the timing of labor in regards to what to do with their first child and also managing either high expectations from their first birth or even healing from disappointment or pain from their first birthing experience. Again, I thank you for sharing your story and do not in any way mean to invalidate your calmness that you experienced surrounding the birth of your baby. Most sincerely, Deb Hi Nathalie

Thank you so much for sharing your story and commenting on the blog “Fear Not’.

I added the line about the midwife’s concern over those not nervous for two reasons. The first was indeed to tell mothers it is ok to be nervous. The second reason was to encourage mothers to take a closer look at what was coming up and see if there was any unexplored feelings. This could help create a dialogue between the expectant mother and her support person/people about the mother’s concerns and allow her support team to really be available to anticipate and meet her needs.

From personal experience, I can not remember a woman not expressing some sort of apprehension about how labor will unfold. Many first time moms are often concerned with what labor will look and feel like and how they will handle the contractions. Second time moms often are concerned about the timing of labor in regards to what to do with their first child and also managing either high expectations from their first birth or even healing from disappointment or pain from their first birthing experience.

Again, I thank you for sharing your story and do not in any way mean to invalidate your calmness that you experienced surrounding the birth of your baby.

Most sincerely,
Deb

]]> By: Nathalie http://prenatalyogacenter.com/blog/fear-not/#comment-2531 Nathalie Wed, 19 May 2010 23:24:11 +0000 http://prenatalyogacenter.com/blog/?p=1090#comment-2531 "In fact, I remember a midwife once telling me that it’s those who don’t have any nervousness around labor and delivery that worry her most." I appreciate your article but am curious as to why you decided to include this statement in it. (Aside from comforting Mother's and reminding them that it's OK and perhaps necessary to get nervous...) To my surprise I felt very little stress and nervousness prior to my own labor experience which ended up being a very long and painfull one since it was enduced. Nonetheless, I went with the flow and am fortunate that I saved up a lot of energy "relaxing and enjoying my pregnancy" since I needed every bit of extra strength to experience a vaginal birth as I was headed down the typical c-section pathway... Interesting article... I will look for others on the site! “In fact, I remember a midwife once telling me that it’s those who don’t have any nervousness around labor and delivery that worry her most.”
I appreciate your article but am curious as to why you decided to include this statement in it. (Aside from comforting Mother’s and reminding them that it’s OK and perhaps necessary to get nervous…) To my surprise I felt very little stress and nervousness prior to my own labor experience which ended up being a very long and painfull one since it was enduced. Nonetheless, I went with the flow and am fortunate that I saved up a lot of energy “relaxing and enjoying my pregnancy” since I needed every bit of extra strength to experience a vaginal birth as I was headed down the typical c-section pathway…
Interesting article… I will look for others on the site!

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